Your mother is really overprotective of you and you know she just wants the best for you but she doesn't let you express youself as long as she doesn't approve of it what should you do?

Answer 1

Depending on the expressions you want to use, there are ways to do it properly. Your mom may also be trying to help you sift between acceptable and unacceptable actions. For example, one of my children liked the feeling of old clothes (soft, comfortable, familiar). I wouldn't let him wear them to school, but he could wear them on Saturdays. We talked; he didn't like it, but that was the way it went. Most parents, me included, have a hard time with reacting to anger from a child. I think it takes some understanding on the part of both people to handle it well. The anger can be honest, but you always have to keep in mind that there are still boundaries. The purpose may be for you to get your way, but you don't want to affect the rapport you have with the other person. Telling the other person you hate them, switching to other subjects as well, or blaming them for something that they had no control over, makes the anger unforgettable and not only will you not get what you want right now, but the other person (even your mom) may not be receptive to your next idea. So, logic wins over emotion. Try to calm down enough to state your wish/idea/plan and back it up with reasonable, true, things you will do. For example, if you want to drive somewhere in her car, offer to pay gas, be at home on time, say and do what you promise in carrying it out and keep in contact should something go awry. If you don't come home on time, calling late saying you received a ticket or other problems kept you from being on time, the trust level won't go up. Trying to practice independence is tough enough in your teen years without alienating your main backup, which is your mom.

Also, from this question it seems that you may be asking to go places that your mom has judged to be inappropriate and you are not seeing it as that. However, maturity does provide you with a sense of risky situations. The deal is that, no matter how mature you are, being in a risky situation with peers may result in your joining in. This happens to us all, regardless of age! Even independent people make their choices based on their feeling about the possibilities, and can make errors. Go with her interpretation especially when things could be slightly off.